dinsdag 16 januari 2018

Does It Even Matter?

Here is something to consider when making a choice whether to be a two income family or not. In a modern Western society, does it even matter?

Let me illustrate my point by examples. I know a couple of people who by different reasons live in subsidised housing.  One is sick and couldn't work any more. The house looks quite decent. She has time to cook nutritious meals and she has housekeeping help from the government. The neighbourhood she lives in isn't really bad. There is a huge beautiful park right behind her house.  People in this situation won't have money for luxuries and expensive vacations, but they still can afford clothes, shoes and even going out sometimes. If by health or money reasons they can't drive, we have a good system of public transportation.

On the other hand, some (young) families I know went for a 2 income lifestyle. Some took a huge amount in debt to live in a similar 3-bedroom house, in a slightly better neighbourhood. Of course, there IS a difference, I know there is. The point I'm trying to make is that the said difference isn't big enough, at least in the country I live in, to justify the debt and children being raised by strangers, imo. Unless you are a surgeon or a lawyer but live from two lower middle class/working class salaries, there won't be any huge rise in your standard of living compared to a one-income family, and if you are a surgeon, you can afford for your wife to stay home full time and there still will be the difference between you and a truck driver, so to say.

So what's the point?

zaterdag 13 januari 2018

Dear Mother, Your Child Doesn't Care About Your Rights

I found this interesting article on HubPages. In it, a young mother explains her choice to stay home with her child(ren). It's a lengthy article which is best read in its total, yet I wanted to highlight some parts. The author has really great insights in the whole career mommy debate. She points out that even though the perception of the mother's role has changed in the eyes of society, her children's needs haven't:

Not all things are fair. A mother is not the same as a father in the children's eyes. There is meant to be a different connection there that begins in the womb for the child. They know nothing about feminism or hidden political agendas to their benefit. they have simple desires and needs. Most include their mothers time and attention. They don't care about mommy having the right to work, they just know mommy goes to work and leaves them. If it is hard for many empty nesters to let their kids go at18 think about how hard it is for a child to let their parent go to work. We can have a child and go back to work to resume the life we led before kids. It is a right. But can somebody inform the kids that society has changed in the last 50+ years so in turn a child must change their needs as well? Even though women's wants and needs changed throughout these progressive years, children still have the same needs and wants.

Another issue she raises is whether very small children are traumatised by daycare setting. The lady  herself went back to work after her daughter turned 10 weeks but quit when the child turned 6 mos. Yet, a very strange thing happened many moths later:

I'll never forget it when my daughter was 3 yrs old, she told me out of the blue she didn't like going to daycare and began crying as if it was something recent, saying she missed me when she was there. Let me remind you, she was 6 months old when I took her out of daycare.

The comments are also worth reading, and some ladies were pointing out that very young children can't even complain if anyone hurt them during the day away from home. It's really encouraging that younger generations are discovering the joys of traditional motherhood. 

donderdag 11 januari 2018

An Unintended Consequence Of Promiscuity?

One more reason why promiscuity is not such a great idea - microchimerism:

Microchimerism is the presence of a small number of cells that originate from another individual and are therefore genetically distinct from the cells of the host individual. This phenomenon may be related to certain types of autoimmune diseases; however, the mechanisms responsible for this relationship are unclear.

While the Wiki article goes on and on about maternal microchimerism, it does mention at the end of the section that

It is hypothesized that unprotected intercourse with ejaculation may be another source of microchimerism.

Something to think about?

maandag 8 januari 2018

New Year Muffins

Baked them for Epiphany and we already ate them all! Recipe adapted from an old Taste Of Home magazine from 2006.

1/3c soft butter
ab. 1/2c (or less) brown sugar
2 eggs
1c flour + ab. 1/2 c rye flour
1 1/2 tsp baking powder
1 tsp cinnamon
1/3c milk

For filling, you'll need:

200g cream cheese
3-4 tbsp brown sugar
1 egg
ab. 1c raisins

For topping, you'll need:

4 tbsp flour
1-2 tbsp brown sugar
cinnamon to taste
1 tbsp cold butter

For the dough, cream butter and sugar, add eggs and mix thoroughly. Add flour+baking powder+cinnamon alternately with milk. Fill greased or paper lined muffin cups. A word of warning: I used paper lining and had difficulty with separating it from baked muffins as the dough was very sticky. Also, according to the magazine, you should get about 18 muffins. My oven is small and I really didn't care for baking twice so I managed to fit the dough + filling into a standard muffin pan for 12, but the cups were full.

For filling, beat cream cheese, sugar and egg, add the raisins and with a spoon, drop filling on top of each muffin. For topping, combine dry ingredients, cut in cold butter and crumble the mixture by hand, sprinkle on top.

Bake at 375F/190*C for ab. 30 min, or until ready (use a toothpick to test). Eat warm or cold. Enjoy:)

zaterdag 6 januari 2018


It's Epiphany today so don't forget to get rid of the Christmas tree, if you haven't done it already! Though officially, Christmas period lasts till 2 February. And if you put on weight during celebrations, I have bad news for you - Epiphany is not a time for dieting:) Celebrate it with lots of cake!

vrijdag 5 januari 2018

The Pill And Cleaning

Hormonal contraception remains rather controversial, because of its documented side effects, for instance, hypertension, heart attack and blood clots; tripling the risk of suicide; and bumping breast cancer risk by 20%. (Here I just wonder why isn't WHO worried, like they were in the cause of bacon?). It's apparently bad for the environment as well.

These risks are well-documented and can be more or less objectively measured, but could there be  other, less obvious side effects of being on the pill?

As we all know, the pill prevents ovulation, which is probably the most important part of a typical female cycle. I found a very interesting article which explains how your cycle influences your mind and body. It's a bit New Agey, but still well worth reading.

By suppressing ovulation, hormonal contraceptives interfere with female sexuality, which is acknowledged by Wikipedia. Typically some women on the pill report a lower libido, and don't we all know how men often complain that women aren't into it? (Another reason for lack of female desire is stress, as in work stress, but that's a topic for another discussion).

Yet somehow somewhere I heard of a theory which attributes modern bad housekeeping to using hormonal contraception. Apparently, the urge to clean house is connected to the natural female cycle as well. I agree that it may seem rather far-fetched, however, I found another article which at least partly validates this claim:

Before your period, your progesterone levels also drop, which combines the impulse to clean with an instinct to "nest." We see this tendency manifest itself more dramatically in pregnant women, who in their later months of pregnancy have low progesterone levels — which often lead them to go into a frenzy of cleaning house and nesting in order to prepare for the baby.

The PMS-related drop in progesterone is a less-intense version of the same phenomenon. In her fascinating book, Moody Bitches , Dr. Julie Holland explains why this happens: "Every month, when your body prepares for a possible embryo implantation, progesterone levels are building and causing a smaller form of nesting," she writes. "Toward the end of the cycle, a woman might become dissatisfied with her environment and obsessive about making changes in order to make sure the setting is appropriate next month for the burrowing of the embryo into the uterine lining."
"When estrogen levels drop before our periods, that veil is lifted ... It's time to clean house."
Of course, these changes are much more pronounced (and potentially only noticeable) when you're not on hormonal birth control, so don't expect to see these shifts in mood and behavior if you're taking it.
(emphasis mine). 

Well, what do you think? All in all, it looks like the pill makes women generally less feminine which is probably one of the reasons it's so popular in modern society.